Do You Love Someone With Depression?
If you have a partner or are close to someone who struggles with depression, you may not always know how to show them you love them. One day they may seem fine, and the next they are sad, distant and may push you away. It is important that you know that as a person who is close to them and trusted by them, you can help your friend or partner have shorter, less severe bouts of depression. Mental illness is as real as physical illness (it is physical actually, read more about that here) and your partner needs you as much as they would need to be cared for if they had the flu.
Your relationship may seem one-sided during these times, but by helping your partner through a very difficult and painful affliction, you are strengthening your relationship and their mental health in the long term.
1. Help them keep clutter at bay.
When a person begins spiraling into depression, they may feel like they are slowing down while the world around them speeds up. The mail may end up in stacks, dishes can pile up in the sink, laundry may go undone as the depressed person begins to feel more and more overwhelmed by their daily routine and unable to keep up. By giving your partner some extra help sorting mail, washing dishes or using paper plates and keeping chaos in check in general, you’ll be giving them (and yourself) the gift of a calm environment. (I’m a fan of the minimalist movement because of this, you can read more about that here.)
2. Fix them a healthy meal.
Your partner may do one of two things when they are in a depressed state. They may eat very little, or they may overeat. In either case, they may find that driving through a fast food restaurant or ordering a pizza online is just easier than fixing a meal. Eating like this, or neglecting to eat will only degrade your partner’s health, causing them to go deeper into their depression. Help your loved one keep their body healthy, and their mind will follow. This is a great article that talks about the “Brain Diet” which can help the symptoms of depression, and this article talks about how our modern diet could contribute to the recent rise in depression. Here is a recipe for a trail mix that is quick to make and has mood-boosting properties.
3.Get them outside.
The benefits of getting outside for a depressed person are huge. And it is possibly the last thing on earth your partner will want to do. Take them to be somewhere in nature. Pack a picnic and lie in the sun, take a leisurely hike or plant a garden. Being barefoot in the dirt, or “earthing” helps ground the body and reverse the effects of living in a world of emf’s, and digging in soil can actually act as an antidepressant, as a strain of bacterium in soil, Mycobacterium vaccae, triggers the release of seratonin, which in turn elevates mood and decreases anxiety. Sunshine increases Vitamin D production which can help alleviate depression. My friend Elizabeth wrote an excellent post about Vitamin D and its link to depression here. For more information about other sources of Vitamin D, this is a great post as well as this.
4. Ask them to help you understand what they’re feeling.
If your partner is able to articulate what they are going through, it will help them and you better understand what you are dealing with, and may give insight into a plan of action for helping your partner. Also, feeling alone is common for a depressed person and anything that combats that feeling will help alleviate the severity and length of the depression.
5. Encourage them to focus on self-care.
Depressed people often stop taking care of themselves. Showering, getting haircuts, going to the doctor or dentist, it’s all just too hard, and they don’t deserve to be well taken care of anyway in their minds. This can snowball quickly into greater feelings of worthlessness since “Now I’m such a mess, no one could ever love me”. Help your loved one by being proactive. Tell them “I’m going to do the dishes, why don’t you go enjoy a bubble bath?” can give them the permission they won’t give themselves to do something normal, healthy and self-loving.
6. Hug them.
Studies show that a sincere hug that lasts longer than 20 seconds can release feel-good chemicals in the brain and elevate the mood of the giver and receiver. Depressed people often don’t want to be touched, but a sincere hug with no expectation of anything further can give your partner a lift.
7. Laugh with them.
Telling a silly joke, watching a comedy or seeing a stand up comedian will encourage your partner to laugh in spite of themselves. Laughing releases endorphins and studies show can actually counteract symptoms of depression and anxiety.
8. Reassure them that you can handle their feelings.
Your partner may be feeling worthless, angry and even guilty while they are depressed. They may be afraid that they will end up alone because no one will put up with their episodes forever. Reassure them that you are in the relationship for the long haul and they won’t scare you away because they have an illness.
9. Challenge their destructive thoughts.
A depressed person’s mind can be a never-ending loop of painful, destructive thoughts. “I’m unlovable, I’m a failure, I’m ugly, I’m stupid”. Challenge these untruths with the truth. “You’re not unlovable, I love you. You aren’t a failure, here are all the things you’ve accomplished.”
10.Remind them why you love them.
Look at pictures of happy times you’ve had together. Tell them your favorite things about them. Reminisce about your relationship and all the positive things that have happened, and remind your partner that you love them and they will get through this.
(via The Darling Bakers)
More people need to know this.This is so incredibly important. I’ve seen people with depression ostracized so many times, and I cannot stress how much it means to each and every person I’ve tried to reach out to after whatever “falling-outs” they’ve had due to depression. Remember to always be compassionate and kind to all friends like this, because you never know what they’re going through.
I wish I had known this when I was married.
This is the biggest bundle about vintage style that I have seen. If you’re constantly looking for the beautiful homesick vintage styles, this time you can stop for a while and check all the huge amount of resources including in this bundle. You can combine different elements and create infinite amount of results. Even if you’re not so sure about a creative combination you can just choose a badge template and change the text for your data. This huge bundle include:
- 190 editable vector templates
- Over 560 vector elements from 46 different sets
- 200 vintage vector illustrations
- 12 gorgeous hand-drawn fonts with their original vector files
- 100 frames and borders
- 50 hand-drawn vector ornaments
- 54 premium seamless patterns
- 11 vector alphabet sets
- 73 super high-resolution textures
- 188 Photoshop and vector brushes
- 6 incredible Photoshop Actions
It’s stuffed with $4,035 worth of super premium resources, but it can be yours for $49!
Grab it here; http://bit.ly/vintagekit
LINE & GIPHY are inviting you to create the best stickers in the Universe! Win $10,000 and 1 of 20 Cintiqs! See more info here.
Cross Connect Featured Curator: Zolloc [zolloc.com]
Velwyn Yossy is a fashion Illustrator based out of London & Los Angeles.
Check out more of her work at: http://velwyn.tumblr.com/
New Delhi based visual artist, illustrator and Art Director Archan Nair is specializing in mixed media, illustration and digital art. Formerly a fashion major and entrepreneur, Archan started painting in 2006 at the age of 24 and made the shift to independent artist one year after. Inspired by various phases and forms of life, Archan creates spectacular and highly intricate works that connect the various dimensions of our existence. Two year after his fist feature on Artchipel, we catch up with Artist to chat with us about his story, creative process and future projects.
Artchipel: Hi Archan, please tell us about your background, your creative process and how did you come to develop your aesthetic.
Archan Nair: Hello, my name is Archan Nair. I am now a 32 year old Artist and illustrator. I specialise in Digital art and Mixed media, and I love creating! Love love love!!
I guess it was some form of mystical moment which really made me discover this insane realm of creative expression. I never had a formal training, nor was I inclined towards drawing or painting while growing up. In fact, I was an entrepreneur as a part of my family business. I began working in the fashion industry around 2002, and around 2006 I accidentally started experimenting with playing around with visual art. I was in awe of the fact that I could create something out of nothing… I got really addicted and I started having too much fun. This began growing on me everyday as I kept exploring and creating. There was a point of realisation around 2007 when I knew this was it, this is what I wanted to do all the time. So I called it quits for the day-to-day work at my company and started my beautiful journey as an independent artist . It was the most difficult and confusing decision but it was worth it!
A: Using both traditional and digital tools, you create explosive and layered illustrations that are full of details. What are you trying to express?
AN: Art has been a vehicle for me which has taken me into a magical journey, where I have not just rediscovered my true self but the process of understanding what the true nature of reality and our interconnectedness with the patterns which exist all around us – living or non-living, seen or unseen.
I am highly influenced by the unknown and how the fractal nature of everything truly works in such a spectacular intelligent way. Nature, conversations, moods, and moments in life which could seem random from a micro-scale but make so much sense when seen up close - It is mind boggling really! I feel in awe everyday when I have this realization again and again of how incredibly transformative this journey has been. It is truly unexplainable through any language or words, it feels like a sequence of intelligent codes.
A: We noticed your art and had a very brief chat two years ago (ref. previous posts). How do you feel about the way your work has progressed so far?
AN: I feel in the last few years I have gone through an incredible transformation, in various spheres of my journey and that possibly reflects in my recent works too. Not just technically, but the emotions, realisations of our existence, our purpose and trying to find balance in each moment. it is still an ongoing process.. an integral part of the collective evolution we are going through. I am quite content with how my art is progressing… the way i can share a deep vibe with the planet, and will try and continue to go deeper!
A: Despite your young age, you have a pretty cool portfolio with some very impressive projects. How did you come to work with clients like GQ and Vogue?
AN: It has been fantastic collaborating with amazing creative people across the world in various brands! I get to learn a lot which is very exciting. Usually its the brands which discover my art and contact me, which is truly an honour!
A: You are very active on some major social medias including Facebook, Instagram and Tumblr. How do you use social medias to invent or reinvent yourself as visual artist?
AN: Yes, I love the fact that we can connect, share and inspire through our expressions, thanks to all the wonderful social media channels. It is a great platform to connect with fans and people who resonate with my art, get to hear how they feel! I like the fact that people are more open online and we get to hear a more pure feeling of their reaction to the art I create.
A: What are some of the most significant trends you can see in digital art?
AN: I think art has exploded and moved into so many new directions, that medium is no more a medium, and similarly digital art has moved into so many different areas, and styles. At the end of the day, Art is emotion and feelings and any trend or style which touches the heart and spirit of life is truly beautiful!
A: Could you name 3 living artists that inspire you the most?
AN: This is such a tough one! I would like to make it diverse: Kris Kuksi (Visual Artist), Owsey (Music Artist) and Lisa Bufano (Performance Artist)
A: What are your future projects?
AN: Right now, I am working on a few interesting commercial projects which should be releasing later this year. and apart from that a lot of Personal Art and exploration, which is so exciting!
With so many amazing typefaces out there it is easy to lose hours exploring and pairing fonts to get the perfect design. The Big Book of Font Combinations changes all that.
This amazing resource streamlines your research by putting a working historical record of the most incredibly influential typefaces in graphic design history in your hands. This endlessly inspiring and time saving guide has been compiled by expert font lovers to help professional designers, students and hobbyists dig deep and discover great looking combinations of typefaces and fonts for any design projects.
Use the font combination examples from the BBOFC in your next project, or use them as a jumping off place to think about fonts in a new way. However you use it, this essential guide is bound to become your constant companion on your design journey.
This electronic version of the BBOFC is a 100% vector PDF. Searchable, indexed, and completely clickable and is perfect for an eReader. Filled with 370 packed pages of font combination ideas this essential eBook is normally $25, but this Mighty Deal makes the BBOFC available for only $13 - 48% off the regular price.
Simply put. It’s font-tastic!
Get it here: http://bit.ly/1nTCejS